Tuesday, September 30, 2008
77 times seems too many but I can't help myself.
Yes, I'm talking about forgiveness. How many times is too much? When do you just decide that the person is not worth being a friend and that you deserve better? Well I'm really struggling with this question. I mean as if getting stood up seven times hasn't taught me anything; I still feel obliged to say yes every time the mature student invites himself to coffee. I wanted to be friends, yes, my friends come for coffee, yes. So it seems that according to my invisible list of rules regarding my time and behaviour towards my friends that I am on track. However, he hasn't shown once. And I only get the email apologising the following day. It's so funny how you can spot relationships that aren't worth it when you are watching from the sides but when it comes to your own personal relationships, one can just never see it. Oh, and the best part of all this is that then when things really fall apart your true friends and family always seem to say, "We tried to warn you". Do we just not see it because we don't want to or do people really not warn us? I mean I know I love dispensing advice to friends when I think that their relationships are firmly on the road to the cliff at the end of the road. Why does no one ever stop me sooner?
Labels: coffee, forgiveness, friends
Posted by Tough LOve at 10:44 AM